Discussing The Porn Crisis & Masculinity With Chris Evans

Written By Sean Grabowski

A passionate ambassador, educator and student of mindfulness and meditation. Advocate for unique experiences and life long learning.

September 5, 2020

“Self control makes the man. A man without discipline, is a boy.”

In modern-day, there are many issues warranting real dialogue, but receiving none. Porn is one of those subjects. In this podcast, my good friend, videography, director, and writer, Christopher Michael Evans and I dive into the topic of the modern-day crisis among men, porn usage. If this topic catches your attention at all, you won’t want to miss out on our discussion. Click the above link or listen to the podcast on iTunes, Spotify, or any other platform.

The Porn Health Crisis: The Good, The Bad, And The Ugly.

Diving headfirst into the topic of porn, I like to first explain why exactly porn is actually not so good for us. I find that on a whole, porn consumption is one of the most misunderstood epidemics modern society is facing today, with most people not viewing it as either bad, harmful, or negative. Fortunately, the science is at our fingertips today and no-porn advocates like myself are able to share it outwardly. When it comes to explaining why porn is it is first important to highlight a few key considerations.

  • Neuroscientists studying porn’s effect on the brain have a very hard time find any young men between the ages of 20 and 30 who don’t or haven’t had a habit of watching porn. Most of them can’t find enough of these men to form control groups for their research.
  • 3 of the top 10 visited websites on the internet are ‘adult’ websites.
  • Thousands of Health professionals across Canada and the United States are currently promoting a large push to label porn as a public health crisis across the continent.
  • Porn is turning more men into single basement dwellers each year than anything else…at least from my observation.

Of course, I can only refer to this from the perspective of men’s relationship to porn, but from my own research, I know one main thing, porn is bad for us. As men, we thrive on the brain chemicals that keep us at our very best. Serotonin, dopamine, and yes, testosterone. Watching porn is nothing more than making the choice to put those chemicals to waste. As discussed in the famous Ted Talk from Gary Wilson about The Great Porn Experiment (featured below), releasing our “tension” through masturbation with porn does provide our brain with completely unnatural levels of brain chemicals. While this is all fine and dandy in the moment, it means that once these chemicals are used up, our brain will also have fewer chemicals left to operate with after we are done our business. What does this mean? It means we sink lower than our natural baseline. When we sit lower, things change in our brain.

The unnatural surges of dopamine and serotonin in the brain that come from porn result in:

  • Less brain chemicals left for everyday tasks. This means less motivation, less confidence, less internal reward from challenges.
  • When our brain chemicals are out of balance, symptoms of a problem begin to arise. Modern science is linking Porn usage with symptoms of depression, anxiety, ADHD, and poor sleep.
  • Men feel more confident when they are in balance. Men feel more confident when they have healthy testosterone levels. Porn usage for funny business is being linked to lower levels of confidence among young men than in previous generations.

The results of excessive porn usage among young men are loud and clear for most anybody reading this article or listening to this podcast. Porn is stealing healthy views of sex from young men. It is stealing their mental well-being, their potential, and their motivation. Porn is sexualizing everything we do and is creeping further into the mainstream each and every day. Perhaps most importantly, it is teaching young men unhealthy unrealistic expectations about what they should expect in relationships, and about how they can treat the women around them. Teachers around the world are reporting than boys as young as 8 to 10 years old are trying to replicate inappropriate things they see online at their schools. This truly is a health crisis and the cost is our youngest generations. These are the people of tomorrow, and we need to have their backs.

Porn, and all addictive forms of internet stimulation for that matter, are the cigarettes of our generation. How long do we really want to wait before we do something about it? We already know the science and it speaks for itself.

For anybody looking for more information on this topic, I would recommend visiting the Reddit community dedicated to the conversation of quitting pornography so we can be the best version of ourselves: NoFap. I will also include a list of valuable resources for anybody looking to learn more about the damaging effects of porn, or who are trying to quit a porn addiction themselves. Trust me, you are not alone…

Your Brain On Porn – Book & TedTalk Website: https://www.yourbrainonporn.com/.

40 Epic Benefits Of Nofap: https://mrmindblowing.com/25-crazy-benefits-of-nofap-the-superpowers-of-nofap/

NoFap Online Community Website: https://nofap.com/

MedCircle Porn Addiction Resource: https://medcircle.com/articles/porn-addiction-side-effects/

Watching Pornography Rewires The Brain To A More Juvenile State: https://theconversation.com/watching-pornography-rewires-the-brain-to-a-more-juvenile-state-127306

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